A pressure that is hard to escape- Peer Pressure

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Don’t you think it gets tricky for us as a teenager or students to complete all our parents' expectations… but the weird part is that no one understands it. Every time a teenager is not able to fulfill the expectations we are treated in such a way that we are meant to do the such things that we are not capable of at times. 

This peer pressure can be a lot. We as kids do not want to disappoint our parents but if you remember the last blog, we talked about stress and how Genz faces it, and how we choose to escape from it. 

What exactly peer pressure is? Who faces the pressure the most? Why do kids face it? Why do our elders put this pressure on us? 


Peer pressure is what we kids get from our society or family or friends mainly parents, and can be a way of influencing our choices of life or in life… We kids, the new upcoming generations feel this pressure the most… 


To answer the why questions above, it is important for us to dig a little deeper into our parents' thoughts and understand why would we even get this pressure… 

To understand this I talked to my own mother and asked her why would any parent put pressure on their own child. She told me a very interesting thing, that this is all a generational thing. This is going on for years and generations. 


She told me that parents see their kids as a way of fulfilling the dreams that they couldn't do at a young age. Parents think of us as a way through which they can achieve what they couldn't by themselves, but is it right? Is it right to use someone, even your kid to fulfill your selfish reasons? 


This topic is very sensitive in nature, it has various perspectives. A child might feel pressured to do things that do not interest him/her. A parent might feel a ray of hope that can complete their unfulfilled wishes. An outsider might see it in any of the two ways… 


This pressure can be seen frequently in our neighborhood or our families where kids are doing degrees of choosing streams that their parents ask them to. I think almost all of us are told to choose science in our 11th class because it is portrayed as the most prestigious field of all. 


Some kids like science but some may not have any interest in such subjects, they might want to choose arts or commerce, but due to the pressure, they choose such a subject and score fewer marks and then get scolded by their parents.


Remember how Farhan from 3 Idiots was under so much pressure from his father that he did a degree for 4 years that didn't interest him at all? Just like that, there are multiple farhans in our country that do things based on their parents. 


I am not saying to fight your parents or be arrogant and rude enough to hurt their sentiments it is important for us to talk. If you are one of those peer-pressured kids, make sure you don’t pass it on to your children. 


Make sure to break the pattern. Be a Change for your family and you will see happier kids, happier people in the work environment, and a positive aura around you. 

Be a friend to your kid.


Remember that this is not all about parents, in the next blog we will talk about the pressure of our social environment.
thank you for reading this blog and i will be back with a new one soon.

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